The Eff word!

No no, not that one. The other bad one. Fat. The ugly word that we have all thought at some point or another. And today, my daughter told me I am.

I am not hurt, but, I can not deny the fact that my little girl says what she feels.

This is how the conversation went down:

AM: ” Momma, I like your pretty bracelet”

Me: ” Thank you baby, Nana gave it to me.”

AM: ” Can I have it?? PLEASE?”

Me: ” No baby. This is special to me.”

AM: ” Well you’re too fat for it you know”

Me:” What did you just say?”

AM:” You are. you’re too fat for your bracelet and your make up and you’re pretty shoes and all your pretty dresses. Sorry momma.”

And with that, she walked away. Leaving me like I was just smacked right in the kisser.

So I have decided that she needs to know some things. I plan to print this out and give it to her in her baby book (OK its more of a box) and share it with her on her 16th birthday. Here goes nothing:

• You are not fat, and you have never been fat a day in your life. Stop obsessing.
• You are beautiful, and I mean that in every sense. Always remember that.
• You are a smart girl, always use your brain.
• There will be hard times, times that you want to give up. Keep going, things always get better.
• Your heart will get broken, many times. This happens just so you can appreciate love when it does come. And it always comes.
• When you decide to be a momma, do it unconditionally. With all your heart. Don’t hold back your love for your babies. Ever.
• Your dreams will only be dreams if you let them be. Do something to make them come true.
• Mistakes happen. It’s what you do with them that counts. Always learn from them. They happen for a reason.
• Never regret anything, because everything you are today is because of what you have done.
• Don’t ever let anyone tell you that you’re not worth it. You will always be worth it.
• Love. With everything you have, and never stop loving.
• Someday, you will realize the term ” Because I said so ” is true. And you will use it.
• If you need help, always ask.
• Remember that people are not perfect. Nothing is perfect.
• Don’t ever forget that momma and daddy love you with every thing within their soul. And we will always love you.
• And, lastly, you will never be too old to be my little girl.

My little love bug!

As for the fat part, I guess its time to get back in shape. I will get to that at some point, I swear.